Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Anchorage Group

North Pole Sunset

Despite "icy" road conditions (are they ever not icy in Anchorage in the winter?), we had our first Anchorage group. Present were Teresa (agency volunteer), Loo Loo (she's going to be the group leader), 1 pregnant girl and 2 previous placers. I asked the placers to tell their stories.

Sariah shared that he had placed a few weeks before Christmas and she was doing okay with her decision. Night time is sometimes hard. She had a HARD time the second might away from baby.

Sarah tearfully shared her emotional story that happened 7 years ago in Anchorage. We both remember it well. She is now married to the birth father and they have 4 other children. She was tearful when she shared--she just had her 5th child 4 days ago. She has since visited with her adoptive couple and her first daughter. She said it was so cool to see her so happy with her parents that could provide for her needs. Her dad bought a convertible so he could take her for rides and feel the wind on her face.

There was one pregnant girl, due in a few weeks. She says she "knows what she should do" but is in an abusive relationship and just can't get herself to leave the birth father. My goal, I told her, was to focus on her making healthy and safe choices for herself so that she could protect her child. I told her that the guy would not change just because there was a child. I think she heard my word, but doesn't plan to make any changes. Difficult decisions.

Rebecca wasn't able to attend group because she was in the hospital for high blood pressure. We missed her. I hope that Sarah and Rebecca can meet each other. Rebecca plans to marry her birth father/boy friend. They have had a spiritual experience as they have gone through the decision process. Baby will probably deliver early and be here soon.

They plan to hold group again in a week. Hope things go well.

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